A missing key to motivation
|In the last blog we considered that we have a choice of the legacy we leave behind, now we will consider improving motivation. In this edition I want to share with you another choice we have – do we decide to do something and get on with it, or do we hesitate and procrastinate? How do you deal with a situation when you reach a point of indecision, and you don’t know why you are hesitating?
Read on …
A Missing Key to Motivation
In the 15 years since I have been coaching professionally I have often come across clients who appear to decide to do something … and then don’t! We all experience this many times in our lives (probably every week if truth be told). So why do we decide to do something and not act? I have given this much thought over the years, and would like to share my hypothesis with you. I believe it has merit in not only explaining what is happening, but how we can break the frustration and disappointment of failing to take action.
Here is my hypothesis: I believe that we make decisions on two levels: the rational level, and the emotional level. Often we understand something at the rational (logical or intellectual) level – this may happen nearly instantly, or it may take much longer, but nevertheless we “get it”. If we do not “get it” then we know with high certainty that the answer is not right. No problem here, as we look for an alternative. But what if we “get it” – we know we understand the issue and we can see an answer – but we do nothing. I believe that means one of two things; either there is another better answer which we may not see yet, or we have not locked into the second level of understanding. This second level is the emotional decision-making step, and it usually follows the logical level. Just appreciating that there are two levels of decision making, and in particular the possibility that we are stuck on the emotional level, allows us to find the solution by seeking the “emotional hook” that is holding us back. Often by asking “Why am I not taking action and what is that emotional hook?” is enough to lead us to an answer. I cannot give you a universal definition of the hook as each challenge is different and of course each of us is unique – however we can now be in a position to see what is happening and find our own answer to unhook our problem.
What do you think about my hypothesis?
What are you stuck on and how could you use this model or hypothesis to unhook yourself?
Remember … “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right!”
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Perhaps Gerard can help you increase your motivation?
Funding and Support for SMEs
You may not be aware that I was registered and approved and registered as a Growth Coach for the government lead Growth Accelerator programme (which is part of the Business Growth Service).
Growth Accelerator was a unique service aimed at SMEs in England with the ambition and capability to grow. BGS was disbanded in the Government’s recent Autumn Spending Review. However I am able to offer the same dedicated service should you need to fresh input and support to help your business grow.
“Companies that have used professional coaching for business reasons have seen a median return on their investment of 7 times their initial investment!” PriceWaterhouseCoopers
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Choosing your Role Models
One way of aspiring to greater things – whether in business, work or our personal lives – is to have clear strong role models. Choosing the best role models depends on who we are, what inspires us, what our core values are, what the challenge is and our life experiences. We could have different role models for different challenges.
A definition of role model is “a person whose behaviour, example, or success is or can be emulated by others, especially by younger people”. I suggest it can be more than that – it could be “someone” who can mentally accompany us on our journey to succeed with any challenge. For example, during the journey to achieve a challenge we might ask what might have X done or said in this situation.
A role model need not be someone we know, although often it is – it could be a fictional character, a film hero or a real life person we have read about or seen in the media.
So here is a challenge for you today:
– What is your current main challenge?
– Exactly what qualities and behaviours might the role model need to exhibit to help you with this challenge?
– Who could be a superb role model for you in this challenge?
– How can you best use this role model to partner you?
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